Should You Trust Your Partner Not To Cheat?

When two people meet online and decide to date it can be a wonderful situation. Both parties have decided they like each other enough to go out and they do some amazing things together.

Suddenly it becomes apparent to both people that they want to exclusively date the other one. The question is, "Should you trust your partner not to cheat?" This is a question that comes up a lot on the dating scene.

First of all it is a good idea to talk about cheating and what it really means. Do both of you have the understanding that you will date exclusively? Does he understand this means he will not seek dates with others and that he will not have sex with them? Is that what you mean by exclusive?

Whatever you mean, it is a good idea to spell it out so that both parties understand what is going on. Men do not always think the same way as women so you have to really state what you want.

As to cheating, men do not think that certain things are cheating. As an example, even Bill Clinton thought he wasn't having sex when he had oral sex with a woman and she only did him. Many men think that this is true while women see it as a part of sex.

Understanding the terms that you are dating within, makes a lot of sense to make sure that you both are on the same page. If you are not it can be heart breaking.

Once the primary dating is over and both of you decide you want to move forward into a deeper relationship, it is very important to understand what this means to both people. In the initial stages of this new phase you need to define together what you expect from each other.

Also you need to define whether cheating is a part of the relationship. Many couples have an understanding that they can date other people but that they also make time for each other. Some couples say it is okay to have sex with other people as long as they come back together.

These are things that you will have to define to make sure that you're on the same page.
If you decide that you will not have sex with others it doesn’t mean you won't be tempted.

What will you do if he does cheat? That is a question that many women have to face because guys may cheat when they find someone else who is interesting. Women may cheat as well.

If you have decided to date exclusively and one person cheats it may be a sign that you don't have as strong a commitment as you thought and this will be something you will have to think about.

Cheating is in the eye of the beholder so the bottom line is that both parties involved should be on the same page no matter what the decision.