How To Write a "Kiss Off" Letter To Mr. Wrong
When you have decided that the guy you are dating is not someone you want to continue with it is a good idea to let him know. In fact it is better to let him know then to keep stringing him along or ignoring his calls.
If you are really looking for a way to write some interesting emails to get rid of someone undesirable a new book will be just the ticket. Kiss-Off Letters to Men is a great little book to give you all sorts of ways to send a Dear John letter to someone, especially when they are rude.
The authors of the book, Muara Johnston and Erica Dankoff, made the book humorous and you can tell they had their share of bad dates.
This type of letter shows that two people may not be a good fit and therefore it was difficult for them to keep seeing each other. Whatever the reason you want to write this letter, this book will give you lots of ideas.
If you sincerely want to write a Dear John letter but the guy has been good to you and it's not his fault that you want to break up, here are some things to think about as you compose the letter:
- Hand write the letter -- this is a very sensitive subject so handwriting it instead of using a computer will make it more personal and it means you took some time.
- Avoid blaming or anything negative -- it is much better to tell exactly why you are breaking up instead of creating a situation that you might regret later. Simple is easier than complicated.
- Be clear about your break up -- don't mislead him or make promises that you have no intention of keeping. The cleaner the breakup the easier it will be for both of you to move on.
- Spell out the fact that you are not right for each other -- let him know that there is no one at fault but that you have realized you are just not a fit. This will help him know the romance is over.
- Do not suggest carrying on a friendship-- it is more difficult to be friends with someone you have been dating intimately and this can just make your relationship worse.
Once you have written the letter and sent it you need to let it go. This is the time when you take yourself out of the process and decide what you want to do next. There are thousands of guys who are looking for women online so there will be no problem finding someone else. |
