He Stood Me Up!

No matter what you do when you are working with a human being there are going to be times when everything doesn't work exactly as planned. When you are dating, things happen that will make you crazy but hang in there and you will find the right person.

There are always reasons why people get stood up when they are waiting for a date. Some of these reasons are unavoidable but most of the time it can mean that the individual is just not into you enough to respect the relationship.

When someone stands you up it's just rude. It can also be a sign that they do not do commitment well and it may be time to move on.

Why do people stand others up?
Although there are many answers to this question, here are the most common excuses:

They had something else to do they forgot about --today everyone keeps an appointment calendar on their cell phones or on their computers so there is no excuse to not know about another appointment. If they use this excuse, they probably found another opportunity for your time that they liked better.

They couldn't make it because (fill in the blank) -- this individual probably has tons of excuses all ready to use want they make any commitment. Unless they are mentally challenged and don't know how to use a telephone, they are telling you they do not want to be bothered. If they were interested, they would have called or sent you an email.

No explanation, no excuse, they blame you --when someone tells you that you are too needy because you want to know why you were stood up, it's time to let this one go. It means that they really don't want to be bothered with you unless they have nothing else to do.

Real reasons why you get stood up
The real reason why an individual gets stood up is because the other person has problems with commitment of any kind. They may be into dating more for the promise of a date than for the date itself. They also do not respect themselves or the relationship enough to keep it going.

Some people will make dates with several people and then actually go out with the one person who they think is the best from all of the choices. This is rude and it is time consuming but it is the way some people choose to do their dating.

Should I take it personally? What should I do next?
There are so many people on the list to date when you are looking online so if someone stands you up, go to the next person. This is probably nothing personal and is more the problem that the individual has with their character.

There are too many fish in the sea for you to worry about one and it makes no sense to dwell with this individual. The bottom line is that it doesn’t matter why they stood you up…it only matters what you want to do about it.